“Don’t’ Let Hurt Stop Purpose”
When offense takes place things change! No matter how subtle or noticeable a change is inevitable. I found myself when feeling hurt wanting to isolate myself and not fulfill purpose. You know I’m going to quit this and quit that! Hurt can be so many things and really can be best explained by the hurt person.
Those HURT feelings and emotions: Made to feel bad, feel rejected, feel sad, feel disappointed, feel discouraged, feel angry, feel irritated, feel disconnected, feel confused, just all in your feelings……..
The caveat is what do you do with those feelings and emotions!
.God’s word tell us it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense. Proverbs 19:11 Straight from the book of wisdom (knowing what to do). It takes wisdom to apply knowledge…..looking further its says A person’s WISDOM yields PATIENCE …then it is to one’s glory to overlook and offense. MY GOD!
Another translation says it’s wise to be patient and show what you are like by forgiving others. In all of that PATIENCE pops out, which admittedly, I run out of more times than I want to admit.
Patience is the companion to wisdom.
PATIENCE is the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering , without getting ANGRY or UPSET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YEAH…NO….’ME NOT GOOD AT PATIENCE!
Let patience have it, so that you will be complete and lacking nothing. James 1:4 Father help me with PATIENCE! PLEASE HELP ME WITH HER!
There are times when I felt REJECTED, which stems from the HURT PLACE! The spirit of rejection is a whole thing and a whole other blog. Particularly in the Dance Area. I felt like people would overlook me. People always wanted me to dance in their group or be apart in a dancing role, which was cool, I’m GRATEFUL, but my heart is and will always be to TEACH DANCE! So I’m like God why don’t people ask me to teach, facilitate a workshop, or speak. I’m like what is it about me, that people overlook. This is what I have learned so far on the subject.
Lesson #1 IT IS ME
The biggest lesson is it was the rejection of myself! I had low self-esteem in the area of dance..comparing myself to others, I felt I was good, but not as good as them. Vibes, energy, spirits, whatever you wish to call it is evident. If you feel a certain way about yourself, you will give off a certain vibe. My vibe is I felt rejected, so just maybe…other people unconsciously rejected me as well!
Lesson #2 NOT TIME
I’ve learned through experience, just because God showed me today, doesn’t mean to do it tomorrow. He timing is perfect. The wait is worth it! WAIT ON THE LORD! Sometimes you have MUCH to learn to be EFFECTIVE in your PURPOSE! Patience is good at this moment.
Lesson #3 FORGIVE
Whoever or whatever caused the hurt, rejection, or offense. FORGIVE! Remember it’ to your glory to overlook an offense. NOTE: Sometimes the person you need to forgive is YOU! But yeah…people are crazy too… you may need to forgive them as well………
Lesson #4 MOVE FORWARD
I love Iyanla, because she has a way of getting people to walk in their TRUTH! You must be truthful with yourself and one you feel offended you! I feel the need to categorize.
Typically Two Types of Offenses take place:
- Intentional: Someone meant to cause you harm by their words or actions
- Non-intentional: Individual did not meant to cause you harm by their words or actions
Pick your battles, as long as you live you will be offended. Not every offense requires you to EXPRESS YOURSELF,OKAY!!! If someone is intentional on hurting you… You know the ones, smile in your face, talk about you behind your back..etc. FLEE FROM THEM! You know if someone is not for you!
For the most part… I believe that most people in your life and mine fall into the non-intentional offense category! ‘They didn’t mean you no harm’!!! For those people if needed talk it through …might not be comfortable but necessary and move forward! Just some tips on the talk through part:
- It is unnecessary to prove your point, simply express HOW you feel about the issue
- You don’t have to have the same perspective to get along
- Don’t argue
- Don’t take personal shots at the person
- Move Forward!!!!!!!!!